#002 Systems Thinking: The Mindset That Kills Chaos

Why Me?

Ever sat in silence and just… wondered?

Not the casual, “What’s for dinner?” kind of wondering.

I mean the real, gut-punch kind.

The kind that sneaks up on you mid-bite, mid-scroll, mid-life — and hits you with:
"Why the hell am I stuck?"

You freeze. Not because you don’t know the answer.
But because a part of you does — and it’s tired of hiding.

Why am I holding myself back?
Why do I feel like I’m built for more… but living way below my potential?
Why do I keep hitting the same wall, over and over again, expecting a different outcome?

That night, I realized something brutal:
It wasn’t random. It wasn’t chaos.
It was a system.
A damn well-oiled one — built by years of conditioning, habits, and unconscious choices.

And here’s the kicker:
You don’t need a breakdown to see it.
You just need the courage to zoom out and ask the hard questions.

Systems Run You (Until You Run Them)

You weren’t born procrastinating, people-pleasing, or fearing failure.

You learned it.

You got coded — by school, parents, culture, trauma, reward systems, survival mode.

Now you're on autopilot.
Running patterns that once kept you safe, but now keep you small.

The fog you feel? That’s not confusion. It’s camouflage.
Your system’s way of staying invisible while it pulls the strings.

Let’s Break the Loop

You’re not lazy.
You’re running the Procrastination Program:
"I’ll do it later."
Because "later" feels safer than now.

You’re not a control freak.
You’re in the Perfectionist OS:
"If it’s not perfect, I’ll get judged."
So you polish. And stall. And suffocate the spark.

You’re not weak for saying yes too much.
You’re caught in People-Pleasing Protocol:
"If I’m needed, I’m worthy."
So you overgive. Overextend. And slowly disappear.

(And these are just three out of many. We’ll get to the rest.)

What Changed for Me?

Not some grand TED Talk moment.
Just a quiet decision:
I’m done being run by invisible systems.

I started questioning everything.

• Why do I avoid discomfort?

• Why do I need approval?

• Why do I sabotage right before I succeed?

And underneath each answer… was a script I didn’t write.

Reprogramming Starts Here

Here’s the deal:
If you want to evolve — not just grind — you need to see the system that’s shaping you.

Then, you rewrite it.

You do it by:

• Naming the pattern.

• Spotting the belief.

• Disrupting the loop.

• Installing a better one.

Simple. Not easy. But damn worth it.

Pick Your Poison: 13 Hidden Systems That Could Be Running You

(And how to break them👇)

1. The Procrastination Loop
   System: Delay → Guilt → Panic → Rush
   Fix: Shrink the task. Start dirty. Done > perfect.

2. The Perfectionist Prison
   System: Polishing to hide fear of failure.
   Fix: Ship messy. Learn in motion.

3. The People-Pleaser Program
   System: Approval over authenticity.
   Fix: Boundaries = love. Say “no” faster.

4. The Scarcity Script
   System: Hoard time, love, energy.
   Fix: Abundance is built. Not found.

5. The Failure Firewall
   System: Fear keeps you from risk.
   Fix: Reframe failure as feedback. Faster fails = faster wins.

6. The Victim Virus
   System: “Life’s happening to me.”
   Fix: Radical ownership. Response = power.

7. The Impostor Illusion
   System: Success ≠ identity.
   Fix: Own your wins. Or someone else will.

8. The Approval Addiction
   System: Validation over vision.
   Fix: Make YOU your source code.

9. The Busy Badge
   System: Busyness = worth.
   Fix: Protect your peace. Stillness ≠ laziness.

10. The Avoidance Reflex
    System: Discomfort = danger.
    Fix: Lean into the convo. Clarity lives on the other side.

11. The Overthinking Engine
    System: Looping = control.
    Fix: Act before you're “ready.” Motion kills noise.

12. The Comparison Trap
    System: Mirror everyone.
    Fix: Run your own damn race.

13. The Resentment Loop
    System: Replaying past pain = safety.
    Fix: Forgiveness ≠ weakness. It’s self-liberation.

Your Turn

Don’t try to fix everything.

Just spot one pattern. One script.
The one that’s costing you the most.

Then break it.

Because until you do, the system will keep choosing for you.

And life’s too damn short to be lived on autopilot.