#003 The Fear That Keeps You In Limbo

Notice how your biggest stuck points come wrapped in perfectly reasonable excuses ?

“I need more time to plan.”
“I just want to be sure before I commit.”
“I’m waiting for the right opportunity.”

Sounds smart. Sounds strategic.
But it’s bullshit.

Because behind those polished phrases is one silent puppeteer pulling the strings:

Fear.

Not the loud kind.
Not the I’m-being-chased-by-a-tiger kind.

I’m talking about the slow, quiet fear—the kind that feels like caution, or logic, or being “smart about it”… but is actually a sedative.

A system designed to keep you in limbo.

Fear's Favorite Lie: "You're Not Ready"

Let’s talk systems.

Your mind isn’t wired for truth.
It’s wired for survival. For consistency. For low risk.

So when you try to break a loop—start that business, leave that job, hit publish on your ideas—your system panics.
It throws up internal defenses disguised as logic:

“Wait. Let’s just gather a little more information.”
“You haven’t mastered this yet.”
“What if it doesn’t work?”

And because it feels like self-protection, you believe it.

But here’s what’s really happening:

Your mind is using fear to anchor you in a loop it knows how to survive.

Even if it’s a loop that’s slowly killing your spirit.

Limbo Feels Safer Than Failure

Let me guess:

You're not living your worst life.
You're not miserable. You're just... stuck.

You're in limbo—half-decided, half-alive.

And that’s the danger zone.
Because in limbo, there’s no obvious pain forcing you to act.
Just a low hum of anxiety. A background itch of dissatisfaction.

So you tolerate it.

You tell yourself you’re “figuring things out.”
You binge another podcast. Read another thread.
Maybe even build the perfect Notion dashboard.

But deep down?
You know.

You’re hiding.
Not from the world. From your own power.

The Real Cost of Playing Small

Here’s the hidden price of limbo:

• Opportunities vanish.

• Confidence erodes.

• You stop trusting yourself.

• Your creative edge dulls.

• You start seeing yourself as the kind of person who “almost” takes action.

And the longer you stay there, the heavier it gets.

Limbo is not neutral.
It’s quiet decay.

How to Escape Limbo

Let’s flip the system.

Because fear isn’t going anywhere.
But you can build a system that acts in spite of it.

Here’s how:

1. Build a Bias Toward Output

If you’re stuck, it’s because you’re hoarding clarity instead of generating it.

Clarity isn’t something you “figure out.”
It’s something you earn through action.

Tweet something that scares you.
Ship that half-ready landing page.
Call the person you’re avoiding.

Make output your ritual.
Make movement your default.

2. Fear-Labeling: Call It What It Is

Every time your brain says “wait,” ask:

“Is this logic… or is this fear wearing a suit?”

Fear hates being seen.
Once you label it, it loses power.

3. Use Small Bets to Break Big Loops

Don’t try to “overhaul your life.” That’s just another perfectionist loop.

Instead, make a low-risk, high-signal move.

• DM someone about that idea.

• Set a 72-hour deadline to launch something rough.

• Book a coaching call even if you feel underprepared.

Tiny moves. Real consequences. Immediate clarity.

4. Create a Public Commitment System

Limbo thrives in silence.

Tell the world what you’re doing.
Give yourself stakes.
Make not acting more painful than acting.

Shame? Use it.
Accountability? Weaponize it.
Fear of judgment? Turn it into fuel.

Final Truth

Here’s what no one tells you:

You don’t need to “get over fear.”
You just need to stop letting it run your life like it owns the place.

The version of you you’re afraid to become?

They already exist.
And they’re wondering what the hell is taking you so long.